~どころか
Far from being true, the opposite is closer to reality
You’ll be able to reject one expectation and replace it with a stronger or surprising contrary statement.

風が強くて、たき火をするどころかテントを張ることもできません。
kaze ga tsuyokute, takibi o suru dokoro ka tento o haru koto mo dekimasen.
What do you think this sentence means?
The wind is so strong that far from having a campfire, we cannot even pitch a tent.
Reject an expectation with a starker reality
~どころか means "far from..." or "not to mention...". It strongly rejects a moderate expectation and replaces it with an even more extreme or difficult reality.
隣の部屋は静かどころか、とてもうるさい。
tonari no heya wa shizuka dokoro ka, totemo urusai.
Far from being quiet, the room next door is very noisy.
日曜日は休むどころか、いつもより働いた。
nichiyoubi wa yasumu dokoro ka, itsumo yori hataraita.
Far from resting on Sunday, I worked more than usual.
Attach どころか to nouns or plain forms
Attach どころか to nouns, な-adjective stems (静かどころか), or plain forms of verbs and い-adjectives. The following clause typically presents a much stronger or surprisingly contrary statement, often with も or さえ.
独学を始めたが、上達するどころか諦めそうになっている。
dokugaku o hajimeta ga, joutatsu suru dokoro ka akiramesou ni natte iru.
I started self-study, but far from improving, I feel like giving up.
~ばかりでなく vs ~どころか
~ばかりでなく simply adds B to A: “not only A but also B”. ~どころか says A is nowhere near the truth: the reality (B) is far more extreme, often with も or さえ.
~ばかりでなく, not only … but also
雨が降るばかりでなく、風も強くなった。
ame ga furu bakari de naku, kaze mo tsuyoku natta.
Not only is it raining, but the wind has got strong too.
Simply adds B to A.
~どころか, far from
雨がやむどころか、風も強くなった。
ame ga yamu dokoro ka, kaze mo tsuyoku natta.
Far from the rain stopping, the wind has got strong too.
A (the rain stopping) is nowhere near the truth.
新しい道路ができて、渋滞は減るどころか、前よりひどくなった。
atarashii douro ga dekite, juutai wa heru dokoro ka, mae yori hidoku natta.
A new road was built, but far from decreasing, the traffic jams got worse than before.
貯金するどころか、毎月友達にお金を借りている。
chokin suru dokoro ka, maitsuki tomodachi ni okane o karite iru.
Far from saving money, I’m borrowing money from friends every month.
彼は謝るどころか、私のせいだと言い出した。
kare wa ayamaru dokoro ka, watashi no sei da to iidashita.
Far from apologizing, he started saying it was my fault.
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